Letting Go and Letting God

"I thank my God every time I remember you. In all my prayers for all of you, I always pray with joy because of your partnership in the gospel from the first day until now, being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus." – Philippians 1:3-6

Today I am standing on this promise from scripture. We are all here for a purpose. We all are being "smoothed out" over the years. We are a work in progress.


I have to keep that in mind not only about my sons, but me too! I tend to be very hard on myself when my children don't seem to be moving forward. I think it is up to me to "unstick" them. It is not. It is my Savior and Lord's job to work in both Drama Boy and Opie. They are in a very difficult season of their lives-adolescence with a huge dose of Bipolar, Autism, Connective Tissue Disorder and grief from their pasts. How in the world do I think that I have the where with all to unstick YEARS of abuse and trauma AND think I am a medical doctor who can "undo" physical problems????? Sometimes I am so full of myself under the guise of wanting to fix things.

So.......I am learning day by day..ONE DAY at a time to let go and let God...a saying I became familiar with as I attended AL ANON(my dad was an alcoholic)in my early 20's. The 12 steps of recovery are appropriate for me in my situation of trying to be ALL to my children when I see them being stuck and they are a HUGE reminder to me that I am NOT in control.


IF God is who He says He is...and His Word is true then I need to rest in the fact that that HE can take where my children are and use them for His Glory. He can use them "just as they are". That HE who began a good work in them...will not stop until HE has completed HIS work. THAT is what I am standing on today.

12 STEP REMINDERS(with a Biblical viewpoint)

1.We admitted we were powerless over ______(fill in the blank) that our lives had become unmanageable.
"I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out." (Romans 7:18)
2.Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
"... my grace is sufficient for you, for my POWER is made perfect in weakness." (2 Corinthians 12:9) ..for it God Who works in you to will and act according to His good purpose.. (Phil. 2:13)
3.Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of GOD as we understood Him.
"... If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me." (Luke 9:23)
4.Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
"Let us examine our ways and test them, and let us return to the Lord." (Lamentations 3:40)
5.Admitted to GOD, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
"Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed." (James 5:16)
6.Were entirely ready to have GOD remove all these defects of character.
"If you are willing and obedient, you will eat the best from the land." (Isaiah 1:19)
7.Humbly asked Him to remove all our shortcomings.
"Humble yourselves before the Lord, and He will lift you up." (James 4:10)
8.Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.
"Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift." (Matthew 5:23, 24)
9.Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
Give and it shall be given you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you." (Luke 6:38**)
10.Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
"For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith GOD has given you." (Romans 12:3)
11.Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with GOD as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will, and the power to carry that out.
"May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer." (Psalm 19:14)
"Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly..." (Col. 3:16)
12.Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others and practice these principles in all our affairs.
"Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ." (Galatians 6:1-2)

(all references are from AA and the Bible)